Eyeglasses. Sigh...

I need some serious help sometimes.

The latest event in my life is eyeglasses shopping. Maybe I should start this story by rewinding to 4 years ago. I needed a pair of glasses so I went through the usual routine of scheduling an eye exam, getting a new prescription and ordering new eyeglasses. Now, I’m certainly not a fashionista by any means… but as I tried on different pairs of glasses, I felt I knew what looked good and what did not. So I finally found on a pair that were not over-the-top trendy but were a good and sensible pair of black/silver metal frames. As I looked in the mirror while trying them on, I felt that “Yes, this is the pair!! I think I might even look smart…” I made my last supermodel pose in the mirror with the glasses (you have to crinkle your eyebrows and pucker the lips!) then walked up confidently to the counter and made my order.

A week went by. I received a call that my glasses had arrived. Finally, I would have a good pair of glasses so I could take a break from my contacts once in awhile! I picked up the glasses and brought them home. I was excited to show off my new purchase to my ever-loving husband. After all, he had been listening to my whining for several months about how I needed a new pair of glasses.

So I put on the new glasses and “TA-DAA! What do you think, honey?” My husband had a confused look on his face. He stared at me. He stared at my glasses. He finally said, “Wait, what glasses are you wearing? Are those MY glasses?” I started laughing. Surely, he must be joking. My ever-loving husband went and got his glasses from the bedroom so we could compare. Oh. My. Goodness. My glasses looked EXACTLY like my husband’s pair. Seriously??!! If you know my husband, you’re mostly likely laughing right now. He really did think I was wearing his glasses. I was so deflated. I looked in the mirror again and I did not look feminine, cute or smart. I hated my new glasses.

Well, you’d think the end of that story would be that I returned the glasses and got a new pair. Nope, I kept them. (Don’t worry, that was four years ago before I figured out that you CAN return items to the store. LOL)

So here I am in 2010… looking for a new pair of eyeglasses. I haven’t done a lot of shopping yet, but I did browse a little last week. I had my 4yo and 6yo daughters with me. They thought it was so fun to pick out frames for me to try on. There were a few pairs that I thought might look good. Nope. Nope. And nope. Then I saw them. It was the pair. Yes!! I tried them on and looked in the mirror. Immediately as I saw my reflection, I screamed loudly. I didn’t see myself in the mirror, I saw Sarah Palin wearing my clothes and standing with my girls. HEEEEELLLLLPPPP! She's beautiful but that's not the look I'm going for. I grabbed the girls and we ran out of the store immediately.

Lesson learned: I need some serious help and support with eyeglasses shopping. Sigh.

Enthralled

My daughters and I were browsing through a bookstore last week. It was the first time I had been in a Christian bookstore in almost 3 years. I'm an online shopper and truth be told, I tend to avoid purses, earrings or anything else with "fish" symbols. LOL

I was amused at my daughters' reactions to all the different children books and materials. They were so excited. My 6-year-old found a beautifully illustrated children's Bible. She plopped herself down in a comfy chair and was enthralled with each page for at least 20 minutes until I made her get up to leave. How precious!

I want to be like that. I want to be enthralled with God's words. I've mentioned before that I'm working through a Beth Moore study called "Stepping Up." It has been an absolute thrill to study God's word and dig into the details. This week I learned about the meaning of some specific Jewish festivals from long ago and then why Jesus would say something very powerful at a specific moment in time at these festivals. Oh, it is all connected so perfectly and beautifully. I'm learning more and more how He loves to cover the tiniest details.

The story of God's love for people is absolute perfection. There simply is nothing else like it.

Reading the Bible can seem very overwhelming. If you don't know where to start, ask someone who might know. I suggest starting with the book of Luke, which details the life of Jesus and how/why he is even relevant to God. Every Bible has a table of contents in the front and you can look up "Luke" and find the page number. You can also look it up on websites like www.biblegateway.com and read it there.

Some of you may not care about any of this -- that's OK. I'm not writing about the Bible to shove it down your throat. I just can't help but be excited about it. But I really hope you don't let things like questions/doubts about God or even the distastefulness of "Christian people" you might know prevent you from investigating the most intriguing story of all time.

I can't wait until the next time I can plop down in a comfy chair and be enthralled again. (I think I'll throw a chai tea in that mix too.)

Autopilot

Have you ever had one of those days where you know you were on “autopilot” mode? Maybe you don’t even remember driving home from work today. I’ve been there!

I’ve defined my autopilot days as “days where I did the bare minimum of what needed to get done… just to get by… just to make it through the day. Blah and don’t bother me.” (*Official ACaton dictionary, circa 2010). Maybe you’re on autopilot right now, and you’re just veggin’ in front of the computer to relax and you have no idea who I am or how you got on this page. Aaagggh. Sorry about your luck. Oh, I can SOOO relate. As humans, I believe we are definitely entitled to our autopilot days… mmm, hmmm, preach it!

I find myself doing the bare minimum at various times. Why? Maybe it's crazy circumstances I can’t control, extremes amount of stress, and sometimes simply because of what’s going on in my thoughts—having nothing to do with what’s going on around me. For example: last year about this time, I started the beginning of a big rough patch in life due to external stressful factors as well as “internal” stuff (aka my crazy brain! ha). I went on autopilot mode in daily life – not just for a couple of days but for an extended period of time. Have you been there?

So after the rough patch subsided, things got better… nice vague story, Amy. Well, my whole point is that I had developed some habits during that time. I wasn’t walking around being a HORRIBLE person (hopefully not-eeek!), but unfortunately, I had developed some “autopilot” habits over the course of several months. Little habits that aren’t really a big deal until you start adding them up. I look back and see certain things that really did affect daily life like my parenting and marriage, and let me tell you -- I’m not proud of it. Habits like poor time priorities, more selfishness and quite honestly, more laziness had somehow crept into my daily routine!

I’m not sharing this to have a pity party. I write this because I know some of you can relate, even if you aren’t going through a dark, low time. It’s hard to break habits!

So what have I been doing since all that junk happened?? Well, I decided to start to attempt to be more proactive and not reactive with a few areas of my life that were very important to me.

I wanted to get out of survival mode.

Let’s take parenting, for example. I started brainstorming ideas on how to be a better mom. (And um, yes, that can be humbling!) I used to do that more often, but it had been a long time! I began talking more again to experienced moms whom I want to be like, and I started reading more. It was very motivating! Another example: spirituality. Even though I had been praying a lot through a rough time, I had not been investing much time and energy into connecting and learning about God on a regular basis. I decided to do a 10-week intense and wonderful study about Jesus with some women with whom I could confide. This study was a great jump-start to help get me into a daily routine of talking and LOVING to read and learn about who God says He is.

And wow, when I feel like I’m in a rut… it’s so fun to try something new, isn’t it? There’s something so fresh and reviving about doing new and different things--things out of the ordinary, daily grind.

So I’m thinking… what if we turned off the autopilot switch and got out of survival mode? What are some areas we can be proactive and get out of our rut? Here are a few ideas, just scratching the surface. They may or may not apply, but it's fun to brainstorm!

-Take a loved one or a new friend out to lunch or coffee.
-Help a single parent or young family by bringing them dinner or babysitting for a few hours this weekend.
-Change up whom you go out to lunch with at work one day this week. Or actually take a lunch break at work one day this week.
-Start looking for a mentor, someone doing something well in an area you would like to grow.
-Give your spouse a massage with no expectations or strings attached (even if they’ve been acting like a jerk – probably means he/she REALLY needs a massage! ha).
-Go to bed 30 minutes earlier than usual.
-Try something new. Who cares if you stink at it?
-Go out to a movie or a coffee shop by yourself for some much needed alone time.
-Go on a date with your spouse every other week for a while. (It’s SOO worth it, for crying out loud!)
-Spend a full hour goofing off at home with your child with no phones, TVs or laptops (or iPod Touch in my case, ahem!). Now that it’s almost spring, we can go outside again, yay!
-Take a new step to investigate who/what God really is.
-Go to a place in your town or city that you’ve never visited.
-Take your child on a date and go somewhere new. If you have more than one, go out with one at a time.
-Join a new exercise class.

And the list goes on… and on… and on… And now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to go see the movie, Avatar, this afternoon. All by myself.

I would love to know -- what do you do to get out of autopilot mode?